Showing posts with label son. Show all posts
Showing posts with label son. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

A Proud Father

Okay, okay! For all you proud folks out there here's a moralistic story. Just guess what the moral lesson is yourself! What else can I say ... By the way, if you find the sentences a bit funny, blame it on the system. If I have time, I'll correct it.

Four friends, who hadn't seen each other in 30 years, reunited at a party.



After several drinks, one of the men had to use the rest room.

Those who remained talked about their kids. The first guy said, "My

son is my pride and joy. He started working at a successful company at the

bottom of the barrel. He studied Economics and Business

Administration and soon began to climb the corporate ladder and now

he's the president of the company. He became so rich that he gave

his best friend a top of the line Mercedes for his birthday."



The second guy said, "Damn, that's terrific! My son is also my pride and

joy. He started working for a big airline. He then went to flight school to

become a pilot. Eventually he became a partner in the company, where

he owns the majority of its assets. He's so rich that he gave his

best friend a brand new jet for his birthday."



The third man said: "Well, that's terrific! My son studied in the best

universities and became an engineer. Then he started his own construction

company and is now a multimillionaire. He also gave away something very

nice and expensive to his best friend for his birthday: A 30,000 square

foot mansion."



The three friends congratulated each other just as the fourth

returned from the rest-room and asked: "What are all the congratulations for?"

One of the three said: "We were talking about the pride we feel for the successes

of our sons....What about your son?"



The fourth man replied: "My son is gay and makes a living dancing as a stripper at a

nightclub."



The three friends said: "What a shame...what a disappointment."



The fourth man replied: "No, I'm not ashamed. He's my son and I love him. And

he's lucky, too. His birthday just passed the other day and he received

a beautiful 30,000 square foot mansion, a brand new jet and a top of

the line Mercedes from his three boyfriends."

Sunday, May 27, 2007

How to be a Wise Mother-in-law

I'm taking a break with the ghost series as it seems that there's a ghost preventing me from sharing it at this late hour. In the meantime, I do have something...

Here's some healthy piece of advice which I hope will be of great assistance to all of you mother-in-laws. I do not claim to be the intelligent composer of it; it comes from someone by the name of Shu Mei. Here is what she wrote:

I have a lesson or two from a very dear friend of mine. Through her I learn to see from her eyes and even though I am in the so-called 'daughter-in-law' group, I learnt to be less harsh on the older, 'mother-in-law' of the society.

My friend has come to live with her only son and daughter-in-law after she lost her husband of many years. Her loss is unbearable and she is still suffering an emptiness of heart. Though she has in a way 'lost' her son and 'found' him again, it could never fill the vacuum. Her son has his own life to live and that she accepted readily and philosophically.

Lesson one from her: Never be shocked by what your son or daughter-in-law do, and keep quiet all the time if necessary. If your son drinks beer from cans, and his friends play mahjong the whole night through, let them have their fun and keep a low profile.

Lesson two: Don't ever interfere with your daughter-in-law's choice or taste. She may be ultra-modern or old-fashioned, just beam at the clothes your grandchildren wear and tell them to be neat and presentable, that's all. Do not go and say, "in my days, I dressed up my children...". You'll upset the whole household by commenting too much.

Lesson three: Do not ever mention an incident more than once. She told me that once her granddaughter broke her bottle of hair oil, and she just quietly mentioned that to her daughter-in-law, who reasonably replaced the bottle. As she never mentioned it again, her daughter-in-law was very grateful and her grand-daughter later became the most filial of the brood.

Lesson four: Give your son and daughter-in-law a break once in a while. Tell them that you wouldn't mind staying at home and mind the children while they go off on an evening out. Your over-worked daughter-in-law would be most delighted at your kindness and naturally this is not too difficult to do.

Lesson five: Remember you are living with your son and you should not control him in any way. He is no longer a little boy whom you have to look after and guide in the best of your ability. As a grown man, he needs self-respect and he needs to make up his own mind. If you keep your wisdom to yourself, you may be in less awkward situations.

I can see that this wise lady has a fine philosophy of fine living. Such finer qualities can seldom be found unless we train ourselves for a long time. And I hope that my younger friends and I too will grow to be understanding mother-in-laws like her in the years to come.